The Revolution is Relational

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Relational Literacy: The Missing Curriculum

Essential skills for emotional literacy, erotic empowerment, resilient boundaries, and skillful communication

Relational Skills are Learnable

Humans are wired for language but language acquisition and literacy don’t occur in a vacuum—the necessary skills are explicitly modeled, taught, and practiced.

As social animals we are also wired for connection, but relational literacy isn’t explicitly taught, it is implicitly modeled. The current landscape—littered with surface-level advice, tips and tricks, and awash in magical thinking—fails to develop genuine relational competency.

The Pleasure Ethic Pillars of Relational Literacy

  • Emotional Fluency

    Embodied and present emotional awareness and intelligence—foundational for all the other pillars.

  • Erotic Intelligence

    Understanding eroticism as the primal creative drive of which sex is one expression.

  • Relational Boundaries

    The dynamic infrastructure of intimacy—as much about need and desire as they are about limits.

  • The Rules of Engagement

    Emotion-centered communication for navigating conflict and deepening mutual understanding.

These foundational areas are explored through The Conversations (learning in community) and deepened through Private Coaching (individualized support)

This work is for people seeking:

  • Personal Growth - Expanded capacity through community learning or individualized coaching

  • Professional Development - Enhanced frameworks through workshops or private mentorship

  • Relationship Investment - Skills developed in community settings or personalized sessions

  • Community - Learning with others or working individually with expert guidance

Whether you're seeking expanded relational capacity, professional skill enhancement, or thoughtful community, I offer both community sessions and private coaching to serve diverse learning preferences and goals.

  • “Each session, Elena fostered the group's ability to be uncomfortable AND safe (seriously amazing!)"

    —Conversations (full series) participant

  • “Doing a workshop on emotional literacy is a liberating experience. We aren't taught to be very emotionally literate. Doing this work enables me to name what I'm feeling right now. It's so powerful and it's so helpful.”

    — Emotional Literacy participant

  • "Elena has showed me the power of what 'being seen' feels like in my most vulnerable moments. It's amazing how therapeutic it can be to show yourself to someone who is truly non-judgmental. She has an uncanny ability of keeping the attention of the session on my therapeutic work while bringing in her own story at the perfect times. It's been incredibly helpful to have a practitioner who isn't scared of showing her authenticity."

    —Long-term client