The Revolution is Relational

Transforming the way we relate
to self ✴︎ to each other ✴︎ in community

Welcome to The Pleasure Ethic

Elena wearing glasses, looking at the camera, tattoos visible

At the heart of my work is what I think of as intimate justice—what justice looks like in private and what it takes to navigate and thrive in our most intimate relationships: how we love, parent, partner, and show up for one another.

The mission of The Pleasure Ethic is rooted in the belief that pleasure—that which enlivens, arouses, and lights us up—is profoundly moral and vital to our well-being.

I’m Elena Letourneau, a relationship and sexuality educator helping people build more authentic, skillful, and satisfying connections. My practice is dedicated to elevating how we relate to ourselves and each other, from the intimate to the social.

Services center culturally competent, trauma-informed relationship coaching and pleasure-based sex coaching and education, anchored in the understanding that relational integrity is individual and collective.

  • Counseling

    Therapeutic support for individuals and couples navigating all aspects of relationships

  • Events and Workshops

    Expertly facilitated events and workshops designed to elevate your experience in relationships, and enhance skills for making and maintaining meaningful connections

  • Professional Mentoring

    Mentoring, consultations, and support for professionals in the sex and intimacy field

“In our work together, Elena has showed me the power of what ‘being seen’ feels like in my most vulnerable moments. It's amazing how therapeutic it can be to show yourself to somebody who is truly non-judgmental. I have been able to re-write my own narrative surrounding my idiosyncrasies and as a result feel more comfortable with my own unique life story.

Elena has an uncanny ability of keeping the attention of the session on my own therapeutic work while simultaneously bringing her own story into the equation at the perfect times. It's been incredibly helpful to have a practitioner who isn't scared of showing her own vulnerabilities.”

Timothy, 32, Oakland